Let me try to set the record straight because a ton of what you said should only be geared towards some single moms, not all single moms. The more we can relate and tell other men, the more men can learn, heal, and also avoid making some dire mistakes. Everyone has some sort of "baggage" if you will.
I dated a guy who had a son, and he didn't tell me about him until probably the fifth or sixth date? Is that fair in a relationship? This makes me almost shit my pants. That way of thinking right there is gonna mess up your life in the long run. They fail to sympathize and see the perspective of their new beau at all.
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I do not have large family circles Pls help Who is wrong She or I. But never really became friends. In one of her emails, as she insisted this time we communicate before we meet, she said she wasn't good at finances. The on call babysitter?
I was with a single mom for 3 years. I was also married for 12 years before I had kids. I'll be damned if I'm gong to fund her life too.
In their unique minds — they dont do anything wrong. I work, study and am a full time mum. Please do not waste your time on this man.
Then find a single father. What do you do when you're a single dad? You will be surprised to find out that these women even have the audacity to walk around thinking they are doing you a favor by giving you the time of day! Aren't you secure enough in your self to know if a woman does you wrong its her loss? Logic doesn't kick in until they turn 35 or the 2nd or 3rd Baby daddy because they're so busy trying to fit that square peg into the round hole that they don't think that "Hey, this isn't goiing to work.
You can take a boy out of the ghetto but you can't take the ghetto out of the boy. July 23, 2015 at 1: If she's making time for everyone, she definitely has a dude on the side on you. I'm a 26 year old , single guy and I've been taking care of my late sister's kid for nearly 1 year and 6 months. Do not try to save them because you feel sorry For them, like others have said, you are the last priority. Now that may hurt for you to hear, but it's a fact of life.
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I know my research was done in one of the nicest homes in the nicest neighborhoods in the area. People are allowed to express their opinions and disagree here. Let me pose this question another way: January 21, 2014 at 9: I cared about her and the kids, didn't mind the idea of helping with kids not mine, although I have none of my own. Damn, it's like shooting fish in a barrel.
It was a wake up call nonetheless, and not something I want to go through a again. These single mothers would NEVER have been interested in you before they had children, and they are only interested in you now, because of what you can do for her and her children! I laugh at your pathetic childish response because it shows how jealous you are. I'm sure you have your preferences, like anyone else. Best post on here!
Don't be fooled, most of these single mothers out here are not victims. And then i realised the ''real lies'' I was living, this girl who decided to have a child with some dude, I barely even knew her and who she was before she got pregnent. Some of those moments were the best of my life, the connection you make with her children can be as strong as blood ties.
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One minute it's, "You're a wonderful man and you're gonna be a great step-father" and the next minute it's, "He's trying really hard and we're going to try and make it work. Instead of wishing evil upon us, you should be out there mentoring younger women not to end up being like YOU: I've dated a few single mothers, and always found there was way too much background drama going on for my comfort level.